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Some days the sadness is simply heavy. Tears come at unexpected moments, or sit just behind the eyes all day.
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Crying is not weakness. Across cultures and centuries, people have understood tears as part of how the heart heals — Washington Irving called them sacred; the Psalms speak of tears kept in a bottle, each one remembered. Sadness is not a problem to be fixed so much as something to keep company with.
Read these slowly, and let yourself feel whatever comes.
Heavy days pass, even when it does not feel that way. If you would like to try putting your feelings into words, the reflection space on our home page is private and simple to use.
Grief is the price we pay for love.
— Queen Elizabeth IIThe Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.
— Psalm 34:18 (KJV)In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.
— Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for MeaningBeneath anger there is often a deep sorrow asking to be held.
— The Quiet LightA sorrow shared is a sorrow halved.
— ProverbFeelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.
— Thich Nhat HanhPleasure and pain, heat and cold — they come and they go. They do not last. Bear them patiently.
— After the Bhagavad Gita, 2.14Let not the eyes be dry when we have lost a friend, nor let them overflow. We may weep, but we must not wail.
— Seneca, LettersWhere there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy.
— Prayer attributed to St. Francis of AssisiEmotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and precise picture of it.
— Baruch SpinozaAlthough the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.
— Helen KellerHe healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.
— Psalm 147:3 (KJV)Speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend who is hurting.
— After Kristin Neff's self-compassion researchTears are words the heart cannot say any other way.
— The Quiet LightYou cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.
— Chinese proverbNo mud, no lotus.
— Thich Nhat HanhWhen you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
— Kahlil Gibran, The ProphetBlessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.
— Matthew 5:4 (KJV)The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.
— Elisabeth Kübler-RossSadness is not something to fix. It is something to keep company with.
— The Quiet LightBroken places, mended with gold, become part of the beauty.
— After the Japanese art of kintsugiLet go, or be dragged.
— Zen sayingYour joy is your sorrow unmasked.
— Kahlil Gibran, The ProphetWeeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
— Psalm 30:5 (KJV)People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.
— Elisabeth Kübler-RossLet today be a soft day. You do not have to be cheerful for anyone.
— The Quiet LightWhat soap is to the body, tears are to the soul.
— Jewish proverbThe deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
— Kahlil Gibran, The ProphetA time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.
— Ecclesiastes 3:4 (KJV)Each person's grief is as unique as their fingerprint.
— David KesslerEvery tear waters something. One day, you may be surprised by what grows.
— The Quiet LightThere is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.
— Washington IrvingRejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
— Romans 12:15 (KJV)Some things cannot be fixed. They can only be carried.
— Megan DevineThe heaviness you feel is the weight of a great love.
— The Quiet LightGive sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o'er-fraught heart and bids it break.
— William Shakespeare, MacbethJesus wept.
— John 11:35 (KJV)Putting a feeling into words can soften its grip.
— After research on affect labellingYou are not falling apart. You are feeling something enormous, and that is human.
— The Quiet LightHe that lacks time to mourn, lacks time to mend.
— Sir Henry TaylorA merry heart doeth good like a medicine.
— Proverbs 17:22 (KJV)Writing about what hurts, even for a few minutes, can help the heart make sense of it.
— After James Pennebaker's research on expressive writingPeace is not the absence of grief. It is a moment of rest within it.
— The Quiet LightInto each life some rain must fall.
— Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, The Rainy DayPut thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?
— Psalm 56:8 (KJV)Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is the price you pay for love.
— Attributed to Earl GrollmanThere is no grief like the grief that does not speak.
— Henry Wadsworth LongfellowTo give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning.
— Isaiah 61:3 (KJV)The wound is the place where the light enters you.
— Attributed to RumiWhy art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God.
— Psalm 42:11 (KJV)Only when it is dark enough can you see the stars.
— Martin Luther King Jr.Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow.
— Attributed to Leo TolstoyNo feeling is final.
— After Rainer Maria RilkeGrief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot.
— Jamie Anderson
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